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Old 05-06-2011, 07:48 PM   #1
 
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Default I just had my rhinoplasty... I feel awful

I believe I didn't think about it enough, and I'm feeling awfully bad. I am 32 yo male, who just had his nose done this morning... all my life I've heard all my friends and family saying people having cosmetic*surgery are "wrong" ...I didn't even tell my parents I would, or my gf... now I'm in a hotel, alone, looking like a raccoon, my gf is mad at me for it, and I haven't told my parents or friends a thing... and with a whole buch of questions in my head, in pain and I think repented. Help!


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Old 05-06-2011, 10:16 PM   #2
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Well, an obvious thing with plastic surgery is that no matter what level of change you want, you should probably either a. get support of the most important people to you or b. realize that you are more important than the unhappiness someone else wants you to live in. As long as your surgery turns out good, the only thing that people can be is jealous. If it turns out bad however, it can be an extremely painful road. Just make sure to keep your head above water and use realistic judgement about your result - if it turns out natural and fitting, that is a GOOD thing no matter what anyone else says. You wanted this change and it was probably for a good reason - look inward and remember why you underwent it. It was probably because, even though the people around you disliked plastic surgery, those very people probably have been very judgemental and harsh about your birth looks, and that means they are contradictory.

That's actually the thing, I find that most people who don't support plastic surgery are the ones who turn around and make fun of everyone else for their BIRTH features. They're the people who actually do judge by appearance. The people who alternatively support plastic surgery are the ones who know our SOULS are most important, and that it is a POSITIVE thing to make our bodies match our souls. Even the vanity Paris Hilton types are nicer people than some of the anti-surgery folks you meet. There is nothing more socially harsh than growing up in a place that hates how you look, but still isn't progressive/advanced enough to support plastic surgery. It's pretty much the horrible 2-in-1.


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Old 05-06-2011, 10:56 PM   #3
 
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I was careful to look for a good certified surgeon in my area, he is supposedly very good and an expensive one too. So I talked with him, and he showed me a few pictures of other surgeries he had performed. One that really impacted me was a reconstructive surgery of this person that received a gun shot on his nose and had virtually no nose at all (they had to pick the pieces up off the floor, he said). The pictures of him after recovery were amazing, you could not tell he had been through such horrifying experience. He ended up with a good profile and most amazingly pretty good symmetry. So For that, the other pictures and his reputation, I decided to trust him.
I'm however having second thoughts if what I did was the right choice or if my expectations are going to be met. Should I have told my friends, my parent? ...seek for their advice when I know they would have told me I looked just fine? The female friend that went pick me up told me I should have, that at least I should have called her and told here before the procedure. She said I was handsome and that I didn't need to do so at all, at any rate she was polite enough to say I looked good right when she entered the room and saw me there... even when I knew it I looked like a swollen raccoon.

I have been putting ice on my cheeks and eyes, and I still feel so very depressed, I can't sleep :-(


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Old 05-07-2011, 09:54 AM   #4
 
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You'll feel better! Maybe you should call and tell whoever you're closest to, whether thats your parents or a friend. But if you just wait til your done healing and then show up at their door im sure they'll be just as surprised, So either way should be fine. Whats done is done, stop feeling bad! Did your doctor not give you a prescription for sleeping? I got one for lunesta. you can't think of other people being mad at you, it's your life and you did this for yourself. You need to rest now and enjoy your time off!

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So do you feel awful because you didn't tell your loved ones or because you think you look bad? Because if it's the latter, don't worry, you are supposed to look bad right now. It will get better and better on a daily basis up until the 3/4 month mark or so. I'm pretty sure depression is a common thing after a plastic surgery procedure, too. But as far as not telling your parents and your girlfriend...I mean you can't change it, so it's no use regretting it, ya know? Just be honest and explain why it means a lot to you; they'll understand.

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Do nt worry-you ll be fine! If you did nt tell them, there definately must be a vaild reason and they should understand. You did something for your own good and they should understand it.

Some people do worry especially loved ones.

In my experience which was nt good-When I went to the states for surgery I did tell relatives and friends, etc... but it resulted that the surgery was nt successful and the surgeon emptied my pockets and he did a lot of stuff to my nose. It was sort of a 'shock' for me cause I did nt pretend to find certain doctors and his team with a certain 'attitude' which I do nt consider 'normal'. Eventually, by time afterwards I could nt hide it with friends, etc.... cause I was so devastated that I needed to open up with them for their support.

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I had surgery about two weeks ago and I think it is natural to regret the decison after the fact. My doctor warned me about depression after getting it done. I can understand because looking in the mirror we LOOK and feel awful. Sleeping pills were a MUST!

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Thank you all. I finally told my mom about it a few says back, I called her and she was very supportive. I knew she would, but she took it surprisingly well even for what I expected. She told my father, but other than them and my gf, I won't tell anybody else... just to see if they realize. It's fun to try to guess who will notice.

Anyway, on Monday I'm having my plaster removed. Tonight I had the most horrifying nightmare about it. In my dream, I just had removed the plaster myself. I was with one of my brothers. My nose looked disgustingly horrid. It looked so very small, shapeles and crooked and almost like a split-in-two nose, one side bigger than the other. It was very distressing. Last thing I remember hearing before waking up was my brother saying "they've f** up your nose pretty bad man!"... Are these nightmares common?

One good thing I've noticed so far is it seems I'm not snoring at all now. I used to snore a little, but last night I had my recorder on, and no snoring all night long. I read somewhere (after surgery) that rhinoplasty could have that extra benefit too. I hope it wasn't just a single "silent" night. No snoring would be awesome.

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Old 05-14-2011, 06:49 PM   #9
 
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Thank you all. I finally told my mom about it a few says back, I called her and she was very supportive. I knew she would, but she took it surprisingly well even for what I expected. She told my father, but other than them and my gf, I won't tell anybody else... just to see if they realize. It's fun to try to guess who will notice.

Anyway, on Monday I'm having my plaster removed. Tonight I had the most horrifying nightmare about it. In my dream, I just had removed the plaster myself. I was with one of my brothers. My nose looked disgustingly horrid. It looked so very small, shapeles and crooked and almost like a split-in-two nose, one side bigger than the other. It was very distressing. Last thing I remember hearing before waking up was my brother saying "they've f** up your nose pretty bad man!"... Are these nightmares common?

One good thing I've noticed so far is it seems I'm not snoring at all now. I used to snore a little, but last night I had my recorder on, and no snoring all night long. I read somewhere (after surgery) that rhinoplasty could have that extra benefit too. I hope it wasn't just a single "silent" night. No snoring would be awesome.
Yes, I think it is normal for any kind of surgery! You are still under stress, which will lead to those kind of dreams. just don't be scared if they take the plaster off and it swells a few hours later. Mine didn't do that but I know it is very common to have happen.

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You will be fine as after surgery it takes time to adjust with the change but soon you will be habitual, or you can go for consultation to the surgeon.

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