OMG!! I finally did it!! Now Iím 6 months out and staying in London for a bit for work and now no one here can ask me straight out if I had work done cosí theyíre all too nice here in England!!haha
Anyway, before I start, hereís the result, before and six months after from the front.
One of the big things I was wondering before the op was what to say when Iím back. Iíd though about saying Iíve been working out and taking loads of vitamins and green shakes and doing yoga and pilates and maybe also that Iíve been fasting and detoxing like mad over here cause the food in England is so bad! lol.
Now Iím six months post op and I know what itís really like. People who know you, they donít say anything, that youíre looking really good, they kind of just look, at least in my case. In the early days, like after two weeks, they said you can see it is going to be very beautiful, they didnít say yet, how beautiful but they said it is going to be really beautiful!
Hereís some more photos from before and six months after.
My husband works for a sports team and there are a lot of people who come there and after two weeks he needed someone to work so I worked there, behind the counter and the women, I mean, there was still swelling, I mean the people who didnít know me wouldnít see it but the people who know me, I thought theyíd ask me, what happened? And you know what? The women, they didnít ask a thing and one or two men who I knew really well came up to me and asked, what happened to you? This was after two weeks when the swelling was still there (but mostly gone).
In fact men in general always say, you look very well, in fact after the first two weeks when there was still swelling and it was a little bit blue, men I knew very well would say, itís going to look really good, men I didnít know didnít say anything. The men I knew and who I told Iíd had work done said, you can see itís going to be beautiful. J
You know with men, itís not just that you look younger, that was not my only goal. Iíll always tell people my age if they ask but also what I want is that people look at me and they say, you look very well.
Itís also that you feel more secure about yourself, you stand up straight and you look, well before the op, perhaps youíre a little bit shy or you hold yourself back and now afterwards, Iím there and feeling right and other people can just feel it. Iím not afraid to look at people, if youíre more secure about yourself then you dare to talk to people, or step into a room or speak to a group of people.
But, girls, Iím not in this cosí I wanna make my friends mad (well maybe a little
). No this is for me and itís about making it right for me. I know men donít care what youíve done as long as you look great but I donít want to put my life on the line for any man so I knew it wasnít gonna be one of those deep plane SMAS lifts for me Ė no way Iím gonna end up paralysed for this Ė !! :-O
And you know, girls, I tried some fillers and some botox and after a while I realize they wonít work anymore. Natural or unnatural, they donít last. Iím not into going back every few months like Iím getting a refill on my coffee at Starbucks.
People said to me you have to do something more but I was always looking into the mirror into my own face straight on like that and I was thinking, oh, no, itís ok, itís like Iím 45, no problem but then one day they made a video of me for an interview and they took me from the side and when I saw that, I was like, NO!
I held my head in my hands. Iíd already had a few pictures from holidays which I didnít like and I used to just delete them and think, just a bad camera angle or the wrong picture or I wasnít feeling well, or I wasnít smiling in the picture but when I watched the video of that interview, I was thinking, no, thatís not my face anymore.
Itís really going fast now, over two years time I saw so many things happen in my face, I was thinking no.
So the neck is really important, eyes, brow, cheeks and, some filler where it needs to go. Not too risky like a SMAS and not gone after a few months like a filler. So an extended MACS lift is what I chose. Especially when I saw a friend that Dr Van Den Berge and Dr Vermeulen had treated, they did the new techniques with the MACS lift, I was thinking, this is something I have to know about.
I checked out doctors on the internet but a girlfriend told me sheíd had a MACS lift done by Dr Van Den Berge in Belgium and had a great result. I know Iíd seen her and thought WOW!! Those cheekbones, skin smooth, eyes perky Ė after sheíd had it done, sheíd kinda glowed afterwards and still does. A year and a bit later, sheís got the sound of wedding bells!! I was so happy for her!
For me, Iím married with a family and now at that age where life is settled but I spoke to her about it.
She told me that Dr Van Den Berge works in the place where they invented the MACS lift so they do the latest techniques. Her result was what got me and it kinda sealed the deal so I flew over to Belgium to see the guy. I googled Dr Van Den Berge with the word facelift and found him easily enough.
Turns out he works with another surgeon Dr Vermeulen. (Christian and Sean!!
)Two of them do everything together, they operate, they do the consultations, they even made tea and biscuits for me together Ė not bad having two plastic surgeons working on me at the same time, I thought.
The clinic is full of equipment, the staff all kitted out in neat little matching costumes, coffee and biscuits and little breakout rooms. They showed me the recovery room once the surgery is done, they showed me the operating theatre which has some kind of air purefier hhanging from the deck so no bad germs can get in Ė all sorts of bottles and microscopes.
When I first started looking into it, I only wanted to do the underside of my face, my neck and my jaw, because that was something that I hated about myself, and also the lines around my mouth, the laughter lines Ė they were not laughing any more!
But during the consultation, Dr Van Den Berge explained to me that he also wanted to do my eyes and I was pretty scared about having my eyes done, because I always thought that my eyes were beautiful, but I guess that was when I was 18 years old and to be honest after I look at the pictures and I look now at my own eyes after the facelift, I think that now I have got my eyes back from when I was very, very young
But in the first place, I was a little worried, like, no I donít want to do my eyes, because Iím happy about my eyes but he explained to me that I canít just do half of my face, if Iím going to do a facelift then Iíve got to do it completely.
He asked me to bring some photos when I was 20, 30, 40 andÖ.
Öto see how my face was when I was young and he used a picture, my wedding picture and he said, Ok, Iím going to work towards that picture and when I saw that picture again, I said, Yep! Do that!!
I think that was when I really decided and when Dr Van Den Berge and Dr Vermeulen were explaining what they were going to do and why they wanted to do it, I knew theyíre very good specialists so who am I to say no, you have to do it this way or that way. No, I trusted them completely and thatís necessary, if you give your face to someone, you have to trust him.
Long story, short, got back to London, thought about it, checked with some friends, did some soul-searching and decidedÖ go for it!!